I got back from a vacation in Krabi, Thailand 2 weeks ago. I was there for 6 days and managed to finish 2 books.
One of the books is Unfuck Yourself by Gary John Bishop – it inspired me a lot as I could relate it to my current situation so I decided to write this post with some of the things that stood out to me.
If you want to win, you have to be willing to be judged by others.
Many of us are afraid to put ourselves in uncomfortable situations as none of us want to look silly and/or have people look at us as failures if we were to fail. Our reputation is at stake but you see, we’ll never get to where we want to get with that mentality. Our lives will always remain stagnant as we refuse to do something different from what we’ve always been doing. We can’t expect the outcome to change by doing the same things over and over.
If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid. – Epictetus
People are going to judge. They are always going to no matter what you do. Why let people who don’t matter stop you from leading the life that you want? It simply doesn’t make sense if you were to think about it. Don’t let them dictate your life.
It’s your life.
Some of you who read my posts know that I’m not the most disciplined person you know. I said I want to blog as regularly as I can; weekly; but do I? No. I procrastinate a lot so I don’t usually do what I say I’d do. I think about what I want to do but I don’t do them. My thoughts are not aligned with my actions.
You don’t have to feel like today is your day; you just have to act like it is.
This point is very similar to the one I made in one of my old posts. There are gonna be days when we have negative thoughts; mine occurs almost every day. E.g. Some days I don’t want to get out of bed, some days I don’t want to do laundry, some days I don’t want to brush my teeth before bed or some days I don’t want to shower, you get the drift? Okay, I’ll move on. I’m always waiting for the right mood to kick in for me to do something productive but that’s so
irresponsible and lazy wrong. This book reminded me (again) that I only change my life by doing, not by thinking about doing. The author asked this “Haven’t you ever noticed, when you’re fully immersed in something, all of your problems or negative conversations seem to disappear?” Yes. My answer is yes. And that is ‘the zone’ people are in when they are completely oblivious to their surroundings. It reminded me of times when I say ‘I’m in the zone.’ It’s the zone. It’s a beautiful zone. It’s a feel-good zone. I love that zone. I miss that zone.
We can get better at getting into the zone by doing. That’s the only way – don’t listen to our negative thoughts or wait for that feeling to kick in because we’d be wasting precious time. “Don’t wait for the mood to strike. Don’t get stuck looking for that magic feeling that will do the work for you”, Gary John Bishop said.
Action may not bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action. – Benjamin Disraeli
I can go on and on cause there is so much more in this book to get your mind set right to achieve more than you know you could but the author writes it better. I stumbled upon this Medium post that has 10 top takeaways from the book if you’re quote-person.